Living in Peace and Tranquillity - A Marriage Guide

By: Mubina Desai

What is the position of this delicate and beautiful creation called “woman” in Islam?

In Islam woman possess an independent place of her own... Due to Nikah neither her personality gets dissolved in the personality of her husband nor does she become his subject or servant. When she holds some new responsibilities after marriage, she becomes the owner of some new rights at the same time. As she cannot refuse these responsibilities, in the same manner her rights cannot be taken away from her.

The relation of husband and wife is in fact the relation of love and affection, natural love and attraction which Allah has placed between husband and wife. It is described in the Noble Quran: “And among his signs is this, that He created for you mates from your selves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect...” (Surah Rum 30:21)

In Islam there should be a relation of love, sympathy and affection between husband and wife. It is all natural indeed. Every person in this world is in search of comfort, mental peace and rest. Am I right? Yes!

The creator of the universe said: “I have created for you, from your folk, your pairs so that you may get peace from them." Without mental peace and satisfaction, life cannot be called a life in its real sense. So just pay attention to the greatness and preciousness of woman. Allah has created her for peace and satisfaction. She helps in hardship of your life, that is why prophet of Islam has said: "A virtuous wife is the greatest wealth in the world."

There is always a head of any minor or major institution or society. Discipline is impossible without the leader. Similarly, there should be a leader in the family for an organized way of living. In Islam man obtains the position of ‘head of the family.’ But it does not mean that man has unlimited authority on his wife and that she is merely his subject or servant. Leadership is attached with the responsibilities. It is her duty to accept her husband as a leader, and obey and follow all his lawful commandments. She also enjoys her rights. It is compulsory and obligatory for a man to accept her rights. The Quran says: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given one more (strength) then the others, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard.” (Surah Nisa 4:34)

In Islam man has to behave with his wife decently and justly. Nice treatment with wife is required in every condition. Sometimes man dislikes some of the habits of his wife which affects their relationship... In this case man has to consider the better aspects of his wife. "Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, then let him be pleased with one that is good...” The Prophet (pbuh) also said: ''Fear Allah In respect of women "(Muslim)

Understanding each other will create a strong bond between husband and wife. It creates a peaceful atmosphere in which the believers can live in tranquillity.

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